Posts tagged: masculinity
Watch this conversation on manhood.
Just another fascinating gender article.
What are your thoughts - are men and women different or the same?
Germany never ceases to amaze. When gender differences push too strongly one way or the other, pain ensues.
My father is not perfect. By no means. In fact, by his own admission he is just "practically perfect" (please bear with the family inside joke here). However, he is a man who loves Jesus more than anything else. He is a man who changed the Welch family’s history, trajectory and background.
He broke the string of alcoholics and apathy. He was the first Christian father in his family. He had no model of what it looked like to be a Godly father and man. What he did have, however, was a changed and restored heart, empowered by the Spirit to become the man God wired him to be.
My father changed the trajectory of our family, of my life, by saying yes to Jesus and vowing that He would not be like his father.
Today, I sit here, writing, after Father’s Day, reflecting on this. I am grateful my dad said yes to Jesus. Without this, it scares me to think of what it would be like.
He had no example of a Godly father until he met my mother and became close to her father. I wish I could have met this man - because of the ways he influence my dad - unfortunately, he passed away before I was born. I’m told all the time how much my grandpa and I would have got a long. I never met him, but I miss him. One thing I want to do, if he still was alive, would be to go up to my grandpa, hug him and say "Thank you for unleashing my father to be the man God called him to be."
This is the grandpa I never met. He is already with Jesus. I will see him again. Yet, he influenced and prepared my dad to leave the legacy he is leaving. My dad’s father however, is the opposite of that.
I see the differences. I am caught in the tension. I live in the grey. Has my grandfather hardened his heart? Is it too late? Has his years of alcoholism blocked the way of the Spirit to move? Do I stop praying? Do I cry when he passes away? I have no relationship with the man.
Legacy matters. My mom’s dad left behind a legacy so strong it influenced and shaped his daughter’s husband - my dad. My dad’s dad will leave behind a legacy of apathy and booze.
My father has equipped me in ways his dad never could. He has prepared me to be a man. I am 25 and I was ready to become a man. He was even able to look me in the eyes soon after 18 and bestow upon me my masculinity. His legacy is one of equipping and empowerment.
I am a disciple of Jesus because of my father.
I am a leader becasue my father.
I am a pastor because of my father.
I am on the journey I am on because of my father.
God blessed and used my father to make me who I am and who I will be. I am thankful for God granting my father with the ability to leave a legacy.
Legacy. This is a word I’ve been marinating on for a while. What will your legacy be?
Fascinating insight into this whole conflict of hyper-macho christianity…
At times my masculinity can be a detriment. There are times where my masculinity can do more harm then good. It is not because being a man is bad or masculinity is bad, but because my masculinity needs to fully get shaped & conformed into Biblical masculinity - the masculinity Jesus had.
This picture breaks my heart for both men and women.
It says so much about our culture that is screams it.
Boys, it is time to become men.
I was perusing the internet tonight when this article was presented to me. I am not a soccer fan, so I don’t ever click on those articles to read - but when the headline was about a coach missing his son’s wedding, I was intrigued. So I clicked.
Honestly, this article fascinates me. Let me share with you the most insightful bit:
Pierfilippo told the Independent that his dad missing his big day is “absolutely not” a problem and that the family finds the whole thing a bit funny. Plus, since Pierfilippo and his soon-to-be wife already have two kids together, strict Catholic Fabio only considers the wedding a “formalizing” ceremony anyway.
This European culture is a little farther ahead of us in America - but even then, I still feel as if this scenario is not a far fetched thing that could happen in America.
I’m just curious, how does this article hit you? What does it say about marriage? What does it say about weddings?
I guess this is just further proof for why I don’t like soccer…